Son is Afraid to Deal with Bullies
There are many parents who are worried because their sons are afraid to deal with bullies. When
you son is afraid to deal with bullies, it is hard to admit but it is your fault. A child's first education comes
from his or her parents and if you had taught him or her properly then he or she would not be afraid to deal with
bullies. In fact, he or she would not be bullied at all in the first place. However, fortunately, if you are
reading this then it is not too late. You can still teach you son how to deal with bullies in the most courageous
What you are dealing with when you son is afraid to deal with bullies
Talk to your son & find out the problems
Children who are afraid to deal with bullies usually lack confidence. They are afraid to face
anything including bullies. They are usually shy and hiding something. The first thing you need to do, as parent,
is to find out what the problem is. After all, you cannot solve a problem if you don't know what the problem is. To
find out what the problem is, you need to talk to your son openly.
Now, most children who are bullied often don't have attentive
parents whom they could talk to. If your son feels like he couldn't talk to you then he may be
withholding information about the problem he has or how severe the problem is. To help your son,
you need to establish his trust so that he would tell you everything including the problems why he
is bullied at school.
Some parents have the idea from either friends or commercials or movies that kids may not want
to talk about bullies because they may get embarrassed or picked on. However, if you are the right kind of parents
whom think of the kids first and don't go behind their backs to talk to the principals etc... then there is no
reason why your kid wouldn't reveal everything to you. Again, it is all about trust. If your son does not trust you
then he would think you would embarrass him or humiliate him and would prefer to withhold information from you and
put up with the bullies.
You need to gain your son's trust before he will talk to you
If you are the sort of parent whom would make your son think that by telling you that he is
bullied at school, you would be disappointed in him or think that he is a weak boy or a wimp, he may prefer to not
tell you anything. Again, it is about what kind of parent you are to your boy. You can choose to be a
trusting, helpful parent who believes in your son and stands by him no matter what or you can be the kind of
parents whom have high expectations for their sons and if they fail you then you would show your disappointment.
Kids are less likely to talk to parents who care more about their work, their embarrassment, their faces, their
friends than them. Remember that you will not gain his trust or get anywhere by just asking the question, you need
to show love, patience and slowly build his trust.