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My Husband Does Not Spend Time with Me Anymore and Lies to Me

A wife is put in a difficult situation when her husband does not spend time with her anymore and worse he lies to her. So, what should I do if my husband does not spend time with me anymore and lies to me?

Well, if your husband does not spend time with you and lies to you then you have 2 separate problems. Let's discuss them one by one.

The first problem is that your husband does not spend time with you anymore. This can be a real problem or it can be a quick and easy to fix problem.

My Husband Does Not Spend Time with Me Anymore and Lies to Me


What to do when my husband does not spend time with me anymore?

First you need to find out WHY your husband does not spend time with you anymore. There are plenty of reasons and not all of them are bad or indicate that he doesn't love you. He could be very busy with work, trying to make more money to make you happy. He could be having problem at work or other problems that he did not want to worry you about. Basically he could be trying to protect you by not spending time with you anymore.

The way to solve this is by communicating. He may think that he is doing you a favor by spending less time with you and even lying to you but you need to communicate with him to make him understand that you would rather have less money, less privileges, etc if it means you could spend more time with him. This can be a long process especially if he is full of pride and does not want to admit that he is having a problem or cannot provide for his family and wife.

However, if your husband does not spend time with you anymore because he is tired of you or bored of you then you have a more serious problem. You can either try to make him fall in love with you again or you can accept that he and you may be going separate ways soon.

What to do when my husband lies to me?

There are many reasons why a husband may lie to a wife. Most people lie in fact - it is not uncommon. It is more rare when a husband is totally honest with his wife. So, what to do when you find out that your husband lies to you? If you think he is lying to protect you because he loves you then you can talk to him to straighten things out. You can tell him that even though you appreciate that he is protecting you, you would prefer to know what is going on rather than being kept in the dark. It may take a few mistakes for him to learn that you really need him to be honest with you but eventually he will learn if he loves you enough. On the other hand, if he lies to you because he doesn't care about your feelings then talking to him may not make him stop lying but will make him lie more. In this case, you can try to make him stop lying but if you push him far enough he would lie more and eventually cheat on you or leave you.