Learn from Mistakes
Don't: say or think "oh
well, it didn't do me any good anyway"
Do: Spend time pondering:
When you make a mistake and someone corrects you and tells you not to do what you did again.
admitting that you made the mistake, saying 'ok' and
trying to absorb the lesson, and
committing the mistake to memory so that you won't make the same mistake again in the future
You tend to discount the mistakes by:
As a result, you never learn your lessons. All you take from the mistakes, hurting others and
solutions to your mistakes is that you did not want to do that thing anyway. That's the easy and lazy way out of
having to learn from your mistakes. Let's look at an example.
Imagine that you had the bedroom blind open for days and anyone could have looked through the
window. One day your wife noticed that the blind has been open all this time and got upset. She tells you to always
keep that blind shut from now on. Your response? (let's examine the lazy way and the good way)
The lazy way: 'Oh well, it (having the blind open) didn't do me good
By saying this to yourself, you are just brushing off the mistakes and never let any
learning from mistakes lessons enter your head. You will not learn from the mistake because you never spent
time on it enough to remember it. Sure, this time you may think it doesn't do you any good to open the blind.
However, you did open the blind so there is a chance in the future that you will open the blind again. So, just
saying that it didn't do you any good anyway will not ensure that you remember not to do it in the future.
By saying 'it didn't do ME good anyway', you are only thinking of yourself and what you
want. The idea that your mistake upset your wife never enter your mind. As a result, you did not spend any
time thinking of what you could do to never let it happen again whether it benefits you or not.
The good way: The good person will do the followings:
- apologize genuinely for upsetting wife
- think of what on earth possess you to open the blind and not close for days
- make some sort of reminders to ensure that you will not open the blind again even if it makes sense at
the time to open the blind.
This person indulge himself in the lesson to learn from his mistake. He is sensitive enough to
apologize for his mistakes and tries to find out the reasons for his mistake. Even if he cannot find the
reason, he is making sure that it doesn't happen again.